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| May 2002
Namaste –I recognize and greet the divinity in you. Well here you are –you have found me on my very own web site.
Changing, Fine Tuning, adjusting. Over the last year I have become the master at adjustment and change-“going with the flow” as I sometimes like to call it-Albeit I sometimes fight the flow –kicking and screaming I go, swimming against the current rather than trusting that I am part of a divine plan and there is indeed purpose to what I sometimes view as mishaps-like boulders in the river of life that I cannot seem to maneuver around. Then just when I have run out of “steam” and let go of my perceived control the current takes me gently around my boulder and I am free again—“In the Flow”. I have had some life changing events since we last met here on the web.
I traveled to Egypt on a spiritual journey for fourteen days meditating in the temples and pyramids all through Mystical Egypt.
Oh, and the most important life changing event of my life-I planned my dream wedding and got married to my Prince on February 16th 2002 in Sarasota, Florida!! This was probably one of the best weeks of my life.
There will be lot’s more to come on my wedding in an upcoming issue of Brides Magazine-I’ll let you know when it is on the newsstands. So as you can imagine I received many lessons on creating balance in my life, trusting the universe and being in the moment. Creating balance- Delicacy and fluidity are words that describe this state for me. Not always easily achieved but the attempt to have balance is worth the effort you put in to it. There are three things to give up when striving to achieve balance –Pleasing others, Perfection, and Outcome -give these things up and you are well on your way to peace and harmony (or you may feel like it for brief moments, remember we are giving up perfection). I travel constantly, sometimes very long distances with lots of jet lag in between, before and after my trips. The key for me to re center myself is always to work out –breathing and getting in touch with my body is the clearest form for me to feel good on so many levels –my mind is clearer, I feel good about myself therefore my self esteem is raised and my energy level returns. It is so essential for me to stay in an exercise routine and when I am not able to do so I force myself to get back on board, even if it is a brisk walk. As often as it sometimes feels like a chore getting to the gym, it has become a priority for me because I know it makes a difference in how I see myself and I am the only one I have to please…which leads me to… Give up pleasing others-Just think of whenever you have done or said something to please another person how it has gotten you in to trouble-can I say this loud enough THE ONLY PERSON YOU HAVE TO PLEASE IS YOURSELF-Let me be clear that does not mean that you are in anyway selfish, on the contrary as soon as you take responsibility for your life and take care of you then you can freely give of yourself to others. Not only do you achieve balance but you avoid the dreaded victim state-not a nice place to be-get’s us nowhere. How do you please yourself? Only you know the answer to that, if this concept is hard for you just take baby steps- ask yourself who you are pleasing when you feel an uncomfortable twinge as you go through your day. Of course there will be times when you do have to put your needs aside for others as long as you know that that is what you are indeed doing and you make a choice to do so based on the idea of giving, not because you do not want to anger someone or afraid that they won’t like you. Well here is a biggie - Giving up perfection- Everywhere you turn today it is overwhelming the messages of how perfect we are supposed to be, from our bodies to our homes. The reality is there is no such thing as perfection. Perfection is purely ones perception and that varies from one person to another. Therefore resist the temptation to live your life on other peoples terms and do it your way –give it your all-you can only do your best. In the past I have wasted so much time trying to be perfect or to do ‘things’ the perfect way, so much so that I paralyze my ability to get things done and I am stuck, unable to begin a task because of some ridiculous belief that I had about doing it the ‘perfect way’. Just get started and do it your way. The idea of having to do it “my way” takes off so much pressure that I am freed from the perfection voices in my head and voila- I am free from self created angst and feeling much needed acceptance. Another restricting pressure we put on our selves is Outcome – we worry so much about how it will turn out that we often don’t get started. Although outcome is similar to perfection it is different because we are truly not living in the moment if we are always looking ahead. Living in the moment is what helps us to achieve our goals. To be present in the here and now is where joy is experienced. If you are like me it is so easy to be focused on the constant to do list that is ever present in our heads and become oblivious to where we are and what we are doing at the present time. Being in the flow is living moment to moment, connecting to others where a flow of energy is experienced. How often have I been in a conversation with a friend where I find myself drifting off; half hearing what they are saying, so that I pull myself back to the present. Set your goals, create intentions and take the steps. Focus on the doing and the outcome will take care of itself. Planning my wedding was a challenge as I was often haunted by these very ideas that limit me. You want everything to be, dare I say it “perfect” and at some point I realized that nothing is “perfect”. I now intend to save myself from future heartache and strive for balance. I hope the meandering of my thoughts is helpful to you as I learn to Create the Life I want it is my wish that you too can “Create The Life you Want.” More to come… Namaste, Natalie |
